Lots of things can inspire people to push to a new level.
You can see someone else do something amazing, and start to wonder what you may be capable of. For example, watching the Olympics. Or this guy. Or the last moments of last night’s Super Bowl!
You might have a drill sergeant or a coach or teacher or boss who yells and punishes and demeans you to draw those hidden reserves of strength from you. It works for some people, some of the time.
Or, as I poignantly discovered yesterday, love might do it. Love and joy and a bit of parental pride too.
This kid, if he were your kid, might inspire you to do something you didn’t think you could. Maybe you have one like him. Or maybe you love someone else as fiercely as I love this kid, and then you might also know what I’m talking about.
In this photo, my son is a few years younger, but he’s doing the same thing he’s been doing every day, almost since he first balanced on those two legs. He’s running. Back and forth, lap after lap after lap. Muttering and shouting to himself, jumping, waving arms now and then, the star of the story in his head, pounding out the joyful rhythm of life coursing through his veins.
On Saturday, Silas toured the Olympic Training Center in Colorado Springs, and the athletes and stories he encountered inspired him to start his own training. On Sunday, he announced that he would run around the block 20 times. Nathan went with him, and used his phone’s Strava app to track it.
Ten laps around the block, and Nathan was done. They had gone 2.5 miles at an average pace of 9:38 per mile. But Silas wanted more! He had said 20 and he meant to do it. So I said I’d go.
Six and a half years ago, I decided it was time to get back in shape, and so I started running. My first accomplishment was running one mile without stopping. Over the years, I pushed until I was regularly going on ten-mile runs, and my average pace peaked at (or dove to?) around 9:30 per mile (which is nothing special, but for recreational running, respectable enough).
Then we moved to Colorado, where the air is thinner, which makes running harder – and since we’ve moved here, I’ve never run further than six miles at a time, or at a pace much less than 10 minutes per mile. Lately, I’ve been averaging closer to 11-minute miles, and hardly running more than two miles at a time.
Which, of course, is fine. Even great, relatively speaking. And I’ve been content with that.
But then, yesterday, Silas wanted someone to run ten more laps around the block with him, and as he had already worn out his dad (who, to be clear, is in great shape but just not much of a runner), it appeared to be my turn.
Knowing that just two days before I had eked out two 11-minute miles, and that Silas had just rocked two-plus miles at a pace of more than a minute per mile less than that, I wondered how this might go. But, he had just run two miles, and I was coming in fresh, so maybe these next ten laps would go a bit slower.
I brought my phone so we could track our pace on my Strava app. Since Silas didn’t have a good way to carry it securely while he ran, he emphasized that I needed to keep up with him so he could get an accurate reading of his pace.
I said I would.
And we were off.
The kid showed no signs of slowing down.
“Pace yourself, now, Silas! Remember you’ve got to keep running for ten laps! And you’ve already done ten so you may be tired.”
“I know, Mom. I’m fine!”
“Great!” But I wasn’t so sure about myself. Legs felt fine. It was the lungs that protested. I concentrated on breathing, and keeping up with Silas.
We counted the laps as we passed our house. “One!” I panted.
“Nine more to go!” Silas joyfully shouted.
Help! my mind screamed.
We made it to four.
“Only six more now!” piped the happy little athlete.
Six more! But we hadn’t even run six yet. We had run four, and we were going fast, and I was breathing hard. When we had actually gotten to six, we would still have four more – as much as we had just run – still to run! How was I going to manage?
“Are you getting tired, Mom?” Silas asked as we turned a corner and I began to breathe especially hard.
“Not really, just having a little trouble breathing! How are you doing?”
“Great!” chirruped the cherub.
“Awesome!” cheered the panting mother.
We ran, and counted, and ran, and talked a bit.
And then, somehow, we were at nine. One left! I could do anything now!
And we did. We sprinted for the finish, and I stopped the app and insisted we walk just a bit to cool down, and when those ten laps were complete, my phone told me we had just run 2.5 miles at an average pace of 8:54 per minute.
Even in the flatlands, even on short runs, I rarely saw the number 8 for a minute-marker in my average pace.
My boy had just run five miles in a little over 45 minutes, on a whim, in the mile-high Colorado atmosphere.
And, probably more remarkably, he pushed his mother to shave two minutes off her average pace – not with inspiring platitudes, not with barks or insults – but with something much more powerful.
He did it by tapping into the love I have for him, and sharing his absolute joy of running with me.
This morning, still basking in the glow of yesterday’s achievement, I went out on my own and ran an 8-minute mile, and another 10-minute one to finish out a daily run.
I didn’t know I could do that, not before yesterday, not before I ran with Silas.
Who knows how serious Silas will be about continuing his “training”? I hope we can keep it up together for a while at least.
But whatever the case, and far beyond the realm of running, I learned something deeply important yesterday – that if you want to break through to a new level in anything, or help someone else do so, love and joy might just be the ultimate motivators.
I wouldn’t call it love but I remember Coach Hazewinkel screaming at me during the mile portion of my Aerobics class final. We had to get 6 minutes or under to achieve an A. I was close but had to push if I was going to make it. Coach Hazewinkel was screaming at me for the last portion of it and I made it under 6 minutes. I like your story better!
With all the love and joy and parental pride in the world, I’m not sure I could have gotten that A! Thanks for reading Dan.
A writer must write, a runner must run a mother must love. There is no choice…it’s just who they are. And you and Silas have shared that with us here in vivid and transparent interaction. Thanks for letting us look in on your story. (Relecting on Si’s daily evening routine, I’m wondering more and more if there’s actually a gift within, beginning to reveal itself.) “Let your life speak,” Silas!
Love this. Thanks Dad!
Julia, thanks for the great story. I’m tired just from reading about all that running. Your right – love and joy are the ultimate motivators.
Thanks for reading Dave!